tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805980609241207187.post4368906069049252107..comments2023-10-19T07:10:37.329-04:00Comments on Musings of a Mamma of Many: The HowKatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11547533531816540933noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805980609241207187.post-25854508682093429572008-07-09T15:38:00.000-04:002008-07-09T15:38:00.000-04:00I am a mom of a three year old and a 20 mo old. W...I am a mom of a three year old and a 20 mo old. We have always dreamed of having a big family, but both of our kids have some minor medical issues that just seem to be very time consuming. I'm afraid that as we add more children we will not be able to offer quality time with them. I feel like now I even struggle to balance the "to do" list with what is truly important. Does it get easier to "die to self"? How do you find a good balance without feeling like you are losing who you are apart from being a mom?Marisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18398650125200338008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805980609241207187.post-40322230365097867092008-07-09T10:15:00.000-04:002008-07-09T10:15:00.000-04:00I talked to my wife about this last night, and she...I talked to my wife about this last night, and she said that she wonders how you structure a day with so many kids. How are you able to do what you need to, what you want to, and spend adequate attention with the kids as well?<BR/><BR/>I also like the other questions asked. Especially Rissa's number three.Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17535615325912728076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805980609241207187.post-43711299096969608802008-07-08T18:51:00.000-04:002008-07-08T18:51:00.000-04:00How do you choose to handle people's questions abo...How do you choose to handle people's questions about the size of your family? Do you simply say, "we love kids!" or have a humorous retort, etc?<BR/><BR/>Do you feel like for the most part, there is enough of you to go around. Basically, do you feel your kids get enough individual attention? <BR/><BR/>When its time to grocery shop or run errands, do you try to schedule it for a time when your husband can either help or keep some home with him, or do you just go for it? (When I run to the store during the day M-F, I will have my own 3, my sister's 2, and often a Fresh Air child with me, if its during the summer. I'm used to the looks and comments by now, but I have to be honest and say that at times it can be stressful, and I'm not one to get easily stressed.)<BR/><BR/>I think that is all for now, but I'm sure I'll think of more! Thanks in advance, as I love hearing about big families! <BR/><BR/>Jen : )ryleeandnoahsmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03053334605219357518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7805980609241207187.post-4823840814459915112008-07-08T14:30:00.000-04:002008-07-08T14:30:00.000-04:00I have questions. :)1. How do you handle birthdays...I have questions. :)<BR/><BR/>1. How do you handle birthdays? Do you give a party for each child every year? Do you switch off? Do you feel that each child "deserves" a party?<BR/><BR/>Ryan and I have been discussing this lately. We're doing a little party for Jack this year but we've actually talked about only giving a party on significant years (1, 10, 13, 16, 18? I don't know...still thinking). I know that as we have more children, this will be something we'd like to have set in place. I'd love to know how you do it.<BR/><BR/>2. Do you have family devotions (or the like) together? How does it work with young children? <BR/><BR/>3. Do you feel more frazzled the more children you have? You always seem so even-keeled to me. I really admire that. Do you ever wake up and think, "How am I going to do this today?" and if so, how do you push through it anyway?<BR/><BR/>4. Do you ever consciously feel that you need to give more attention or love to any one child, just to make sure it's all balanced, or does it seem to balance itself? I always wonder if it will be difficult to manage each child's specific emotional needs. And, along the same lines, do your children ever get jealous of each other because one seems to be receiving more attention than another?<BR/><BR/>I have many questions but those come to mind first. Hopefully they don't seem too loaded or personal! I don't have many examples of large families out here, so I love to hear from others about theirs. It's fun that you're doing this!Rissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08162616567825619295noreply@blogger.com